"But that's not the way it's supposed to be!" is a common thing we say when our expectations fall short. It happens to all of us. Some members of MyEpilepsyTeam have found the practice of "allowing and letting be" in the midst of a trying to be a way to minimize anxiety or heaviness.

Mindfulness experts suggest a few ways that we can notice -- not push away -- how we feel during difficult moments. There are physical responses we can notice (heaviness in the shoulders, tightness in the chest), and we should also take note of our emotional responses to disappointment (blame, self-doubt, exasperation). These can be opportunities to realign our expectations and extend grace to ourselves.

Here are recent conversations from MyEpilepsyTeam:

• "We are such a beautiful and sensational mob, and so very lucky, to each be able to vent, growl, smile and share our journeys. I still believe that each strenuous moment is preparing us, for that bloody brilliant gobsmackingly great moment on its way."
• "Today is a special anniversary for me and "Alepo" (my service dog) - we are truly a team in my journey through life."
• "I am on the upswing of my depressed couple of days. I did make it through my new extended work week. I appreciate all the answers and positive feedback from everyone. Thank you. Today I am going to take it easy, get caught up on school, and clean some house. Monday will be on my mind on Monday. Hope everyone has a great day."

Share how you respond when things fall short of your expectations in the comments below or directly on MyEpilepsyTeam.com.