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Decatur, GA
May 18
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I think my relatives were bright enough to know I couldn't control that. In fact, my cousin has epilepsy, too.

I'd just tell them, "The day I have control of my seizures I'll make sure you're not around, but that day is nowhere in sight."

May 18
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

I’ve had friends and families say that to me . But it was in a joking matter. Although in the back of their mind they are partially serious. They also know my seizures could happen anytime and anywhere

May 18
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

Sarah0, born 1971 epileptic and learned relatives/family don't bother to research or respect scientific facts. 2018 one older sister said it's inconvenient when she was my emergency contact and I had a Clonic tonic seizure in front of her at my home and she called 911 and left. In postictal I texted her I would use Uber to pick me up from ER. Not to look bad she arrived at ER to drive me home only to suggest I euthanize myself. We haven't spoke since. Stroke 2006, 2 brain surgeries 2007 to remove a tumor and many relatives think my health conditions are for attention. I wouldn't wish what I've been through on to a stranger let alone a relative. Volunteer 12 years for Alzheimer's, because I care. You're not alone on this journey

May 19
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

My wife has told me nit to have a seizure around my granddaughters.

May 18
MyEpilepsyTeam

That's a really tough situation, and it's completely understandable to feel hurt by that. Seizures aren't something anyone can just switch off — if they were, the line at that switch would be very long!

The reality is that seizures are unpredictable, and that can be scary for people who don't understand them. Sometimes fear Show Full Answer

That's a really tough situation, and it's completely understandable to feel hurt by that. Seizures aren't something anyone can just switch off — if they were, the line at that switch would be very long!

The reality is that seizures are unpredictable, and that can be scary for people who don't understand them. Sometimes fear comes from not knowing what to do.

One of the most helpful things can be educating that family member on basic seizure first aid. Knowing what to do can replace fear with confidence. Here's what they should know: During a seizure:
- Stay calm
- Gently turn the person onto their side
- Place something soft under their head
- Loosen anything tight around the neck
- Remove nearby sharp or hard objects
- Time how long the seizure lasts
- Never put anything in their mouth

Call 911 if:
- The seizure lasts more than 5 minutes
- A second seizure follows shortly after
- There's an injury during the seizure
- There's difficulty breathing or waking up afterward

Sharing this knowledge with your family member may help them feel more prepared and less afraid — which could make a big difference in your relationship with them.

May 18

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