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RΔ«ga Latvija

How ethical or right is it to start a relationship with a woman who is not sick? Wouldn't it be a heavy burden for her that could ruin her life if her partner had epilepsy?

March 26
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Members overwhelmingly encouraged someone questioning whether it was ethical to pursue a relationship while having epilepsy, with the strong... Read more

Members overwhelmingly encouraged someone questioning whether it was ethical to pursue a relationship while having epilepsy, with the strong consensus being to be honest and upfront about the condition and let the other person decide for themselves. Several members shared deeply personal stories of successful marriages and partnerships where epilepsy was openly discussed early on, including one member who regretted avoiding relationships out of fear and another who married at 18 and has built a life of mutual support through decades of seizures. A recurring theme was that love and partnership are not defined by medical conditions, that many people with chronic illnesses have fulfilling relationships, and that transparency combined with mutual commitment creates a foundation for facing challenges together as a team.

A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

You be absolutely right Dave .. Jen and me be living proof of that ., as be so many others we be meeting on here .. loving a oerson have nothing to do with them having epilepsy ,. You love them as they be ., and you become s team ., partners for life.. gum beannaiche adh Dia thu Dave .. and all on here . Amein .. William and JenπŸ•ŠπŸ’œπŸ’™πŸ•Š

April 9
MyEpilepsyTeam

Is it ethical to start a relationship when you have epilepsy?

It's absolutely ethical and right to pursue a relationship. Having epilepsy doesn't make you less deserving of love and companionship. Epilepsy affects over 3.4 million people in the U.S., and many have fulfilling, healthy relationships.

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Is it ethical to start a relationship when you have epilepsy?

It's absolutely ethical and right to pursue a relationship. Having epilepsy doesn't make you less deserving of love and companionship. Epilepsy affects over 3.4 million people in the U.S., and many have fulfilling, healthy relationships.

The key is open communication. When you're straightforward and confident about your condition, you give your partner the chance to understand and make informed choices. If someone truly cares about you, they'll listen and want to learn about your epilepsy.

A MyEpilepsyTeam member shared: "I am very thankful for my husband. He is a great caretaker. We found that to make our relationship work, we had to look at my epilepsy as a team effort."

Relationships involve challenges for everyone, with or without health conditions. What matters is:

- Being honest about your epilepsy when you feel comfortable
- Educating your partner about seizures and first aid
- Maintaining open communication about your needs
- Working together as a team

Another member put it well: "If they care about you, they will listen. They will understand. If it scares them off, well you probably don't want to be with them in the first place."

You deserve love and partnership just like anyone else.

March 26
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

When I meet my Jen .. she become my first true friend .. and although my heart break πŸ’” at the thought I could lose her ., I be taking her hand ., and we be going for a walk ., we sit on a rock under a large oak tree ., and there I be telling her of me ., and I cry 😭 ., Jen take my hands in hers ., telling me she be loving me ., that she be choosing to be staying with me ., to be fighting beside me .. that she not be leaving me no matter what ., so we be fighting together., at 15 she become my girlfriend ., at 18 she become my wife ., all my life since then she be beside me ., keeping me going ., keeping me alive ., we be blessed with each other ., and over the years we be blessed with three grand sons ., and now with two grandchildren ., our road has been ., and remains ., difficult.. as be all roads involving epilepsy ., yet we be living by these words .. in my native Scottish Gaelic ., A toirt aghaidth air beatha aon latha aig an am .. facing life together we be ., one day at a time .. hugs and prayers from William and JenπŸ’œπŸ’™πŸŒ±βš˜πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸŒ±πŸŒ±

March 26
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

I don’t think so. Tell her first and let her decide. Good luck

March 26
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

Good post, I agree with the ai mentioned, and other people's opinions here, I think as long as you love that person and are upfront with your condition and explain that to that person it shouldn't matter as long as you love each other,a disability or condition of not,has nothing in opinion with loving that other person you love, my opinion here on the post here amen

April 9

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