You have a life to live and you haave to live it. Tell her that you both have made plans and for her to find someone else to help her. She should not always depend on her son. For her to make friends with others closer to her.

When we consider those vows that are said at the time of marriage "in sickness and in health" those words are said under Father God. I am a Christian but my thoughts of marriage are when two persons are put together as one to help another through everything and anything. They are meant to be supportive for one another through the good as well as the not good.

With that being said, to me marriage vows are sacred to me and should not be taken lightly. Yes, you are marrying into another family but the spouses should always take care of one another regardless of the situation taking place. That is my opinion. I wish you both the very best, God bless!

You should not feel guilty for being human, for having your own needs—and needing him! I think that you’re justified in feeling like you should take precedence in this case, especially given the stress that can be caused by illness and being in the hospital. I hope you’re able to get through to him that you need his help, too! My best wishes for a safe and successful hospital stay and procedure! Take care of yourself…

Does he have to help What are her issues or concerns? Can arrangements be made so someone else could help? This is not a situation so he could say between certain times it is both of your time, there are plans? Even just being with one another is important.

The gate isn't a necessity, ain't like peeps are gonna break in the house now the gates mucked up a little. He could've waited to fix a job that takes 1 day at the most