@A MyEpilepsyTeam Member it's not so much about him not being worth my time. He and I aren't dating. We met at work and I knew he liked me early on but I am not attracted to him on that type of level. He is always trying to give me dating advice but he comes off kinda brash so it's very offputting. He's waiting for his divorce to be finalized and has several kids by several women. I just don't feel that he is in a place to sit and judge me. Especially considering its not like he knows what its like from my standpoint.

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I usually tell them on the first or second date. Dating someone with epilepsy is tough, and I'd feel like I'd be trapping them if they didn't know until there were already feelings involved. Most people aren't deterred, they all ask about first aid, and the smart ones will ask how much control I have over the seizures. Those are the people who get the second date, because it shows that they're taking my condition seriously.

Like Tig1991, I've always been upfront. I was diagnosed when I was thirteen and it didn't even occur to me to hide it. Hearing all these stories about people who have lost friends because of it, I not hiding it was a little naive, but I'm glad I didn't. I couldn't imagine what it's like to keep my epilepsy a secret like it's something dirty.

Tell your friend that it's completely normal for epileptics to talk about their conditions on the first date, and that there are a lot of benefits to being open. Or don't. You make it sound like he's not worth your time.

I get the feeling for the guy first,: If he seems like a nice fun caring person that I want to spent more time with, I just come out and tell him why I don't drive or work. Most of the time i could read the men right and they will be underastanding

If i know this date wont go far i dont waste my time telling him.

Yes, I agree with Cindy! You really have to be honest!

When I went on any dates or met new people I would always try to remember to warn them about my epilepsy. If I never saw them after that event, then I would know what type of person they were.