A real man would love ya regardless thats part of wat sickness and health means in ya vows aint it

Look for a good lawyer perhaps a public defender ( free) can recommend a good one for you. Are there any women's organizations in your area that might support you or help you figure out how to proceed? Go to Social Sevices in your area.Tell a friend or two what's happening in your marriage if you feel safe doing so.
YOU ARE BEING EMOTIONALLY ABUSED and need to take some action now.
My heart goes out to you. This is too serious for Dear Abby.

Your are a beautiful women and deserve a better person in your life that is not ignorant to what is epilepsy !!!!!!!
I had a successful marriage for 20 years widow with my epilepsy even though its not 100 % controlled it made no difference we just took care of each more no body is perfect. His reaction to you and his friends have to do with them not you ? They have issues with themselves. If he leaves great !!!!! open the door for someone else and yes your fit to take of your children.

No advice but i’ve had people leave me due to my epilepsy before, i cant imagine with kids either how hard it must feel. Nobody understands until its actually them, my heart goes out to you my love.

I have never been married, thus cannot provide advice but rather questions that might be useful -- some of which are even to to ask him.

1. If your husband has been threatening for 11 years, then did he not leave way back then because you had the first child?

2. Did your husband ever have the Jekyll and Mr. Hyde times before you were married? Does he even know that he does this or is it actually a mental condition (which there absolutely are that can caused this).

3. Does any other member of his family also have this?

4. Is he drinking a lot of alcohol or using medication.

5. Did you ever hide from your husband before you were married that you had epilepsy?
NOTE: Also a factor is that just like we lose some friends when they know we have epilepsy, then he could have lost joint friends and business friends because of their reaction to the word "epilepsy" -- depending upon if any of them have seen you?

6. What types of seizures do you have and how often? And how often is he the one helping you as it happens?