The only time I need assistance from my wife , is when I need to go to my appointments or when going shopping or any other traveling event.

I’m a very independent person. I do many thing on my own, whether it’s for myself, or for my family. I cook, walk and bike during the warm and hot weather, assemble things that need tools and many other things. I don’t like people explain how to do something , that I already know how to do. If I don’t know how to do something, is when I expect help.

I am lucky in this regard. Myself and my wife both are able to work from home. I do computer support and she does accounting. She has some health issues as well so we take care of each other.

I’m not married so maybe I don’t fully understand this situation. However, I would recommend talking to your spouse about any subject that makes you insecure or you feel isn’t as important as should be. We all need space, and some people manifest their needs by stepping aside for a while. It doesn’t mean they love you less, it’s just a way of staying a float within all the chaos. Communication is the best tool we have, and we’re constantly using it with or without intention. Speak to one another about your fears and desires, with care and understanding. Hope this helps.
Best regards.

No, when my wife did travel, she made sure people checked on me, and they did check and even brought us some food. My son stayed home instead of spending time with his friends. His friends came to our home and they did what ever seniors did including checking on me. All of this was after my brain surgery and lasted for a few months.

Yes and no. My hubs would leave me alone after I had my seizures. He would work the rest of the day. The cat watched over me. Now that I am older I think he realizes he needs to stay with me. Also my son showed him up by taking better care of me than the hubs.