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Are Your Seizures Affecting Your Relationship

Are Your Seizures Affecting Your Relationship

I'm a little confused, frustrated, and even more anxious because I noticed tension brewing. My husband's getting I think aggravated with my emotional rollercoaster. He says I'm pushing him away. Although I know he means well when his response to me venting is the phrase I despise "let things go..." It isn't that simple. I was always told I dwell on things and that makes me sick, indicating it's my own fault. It made me burst into tears this morning. 😭 Yes things have settled down, I'm calm now… read more

A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

I have noticed my out bursts and quietness have upset my husband .He is always saying he's sorry when t wasn't him tha caused this but I'm tryig to work thru my emotions and he's always responding as if he is at fault . How do I explain this.? I'm at a loss and I'm still learning myself to deal with these seizures What do I do?

posted almost 3 years ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

I'm sorry to hear that but mine is the opposite. I only got into 2 relationship. 1 ex and my current bf for 6 years. My ex was mr popular during high school. When I told him before being official, he said it's okay because his auntie was epileptic and became free. He gave me the hope of being epilepsy free and accepted. We broke up but I'm glad I met him. My current bf of 6 years, knew me since 13 years ago. He knows I'm epileptic and seen me before. He's a great guy. Very hard to find. I became thankful for my epilepsy because of him. He prioritize me. He'll leave work to be with me during seizures and he accepted me. Epilepsy helped show how much he loves me. I'm in good hands. Let your epilepsy be a test of how much a person loves you. Will they be there for better and for worst?

posted about 4 years ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

Hi @A MyEpilepsyTeam Member. I think I began healing myself when I was going to the Epilepsy Foundation support group. I learnt much more through my group and the staff who ran the group. Before that I was in a down hill spiral. The support group brought me back into the light. I realized there were a lot of people like me and living with Epilepsy is part of my life. I need to learn and cope with the many struggles dealing with my disorder and understand, what many people take for grant it, I probably won't be able to do.

The next thing that helped was my brain surgery In my early twenties . After the surgery, My seizures reduced from server to moderate and mild seizures. I still wasn't Seizures free and I'm not Seizures free today. After my surgery, I believe it also reduced my fear, whether or not I'm going to loose someone in a relationship. I figured that if someone leaves me for my condition, then they are not a true friend. And I knew there are people out there who are willing to support, care, and love .

When a family member or friend loose an arm or leg for what ever the reason is, whether they wear serving our country , got in an accident or had some disease . Doesn't mean that the family or friends , have to outcast that person. Most of the time it brings everyone closer. Why should it be any different.

I basically stopped thinking what ignorant people think or feel of my condition and worry about my own life and keeping positive, staying optimistic , and try and keep my stress down.

edited, originally posted almost 5 years ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

Wow, those words just eat me up inside. "Let go" "I understand" "I witnessed the seizures I know" It makes me want to scream. I don't care how many times you witnessed my seizures and came to my aid, although it is greatly appreciated, you don't "know". I have a cat for companion, something to fill the void of my urge to nurture (I'm kinda scared with children) if I lost my Phantom I'd loose my mind.
I think he kinda sorta got a new view during the wknd burst. Please let me know if it makes sense... I said I have these repeating feelings so I can not simply let go. I have ways to feel better i.e. music and silly movies, but it always always comes back. So stop saying I'm my own enemy putting myself down.
Make sense?

posted almost 5 years ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

I'm married and have 2 kids. My family is very supportive , caring and let me know When I seizure.

posted almost 5 years ago
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