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Are You A Perfectionist Too?

Are You A Perfectionist Too?

Ever since I got sick and got diagnosed with epilepsy, I've become a neat freak and a perfectionist. My handwriting is what I obsess over the most. I am incredibly picky when it comes to my handwriting and worry and stress over it much more than I should. For some reason, when I write a word, sentence or letter and don't like how it looks, I feel the need to erase it and rewrite it. I don't know why. In my head I tell myself it looks fine, but it's like my hands won't listen. I take so much timeā€¦ read more

A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

Hi Mei,

I wish I were a bit more of a perfectionist! Nonetheless, if your focus is causing you to take so much longer to do your homework or anything else requiring handwriting, it probably is just a sign of your wanting to have complete control over something, having lost it in such a profound way because of your epilepsy. Also, handwriting has to do with your motor skills, which can cause you to draw a parallel with the body movements that go out of whack during a seizure. It all makes so much sense.

Is there something that really would benefit from perfectionism and also requires motor skills to which you could redirect your focus? A sport, calligraphy (being so close to handwriting, it could be a good one to try!), painting, needlework, pastry baking, something? Just a thought.

BTW, I saw that you mentioned that you "became epileptic." Remember: You are not epileptic; you have epilepsy. It is a major challenge we have, but it doesn't define us, as much as we may feel it does at times. :-)

Keep your spirits soaring!

Alison

posted over 5 years ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

Remember Epilepsy isn't a sickness
but yeah perfectionist I am I don't give up until I've done what I set out to do and make sure I've done it well

posted over 5 years ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

@A MyEpilepsyTeam Member Listen to DenaHolland's advice. I am a perfectionist, but I have worked to keep more control of it in order to complete a task on schedule. I also was reminded by one of my sisters (computer engineer/computer program) that perfection is a goal to inspire but never achieve, so you need to shoot for the best but understand when you must stop with the best that you have).

edited, originally posted over 5 years ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

Great post Allison.. and hugs Mel.. it makes sense what Alison says. Have you talked to a Dr or psychiatric Dr that maybe able to help you with either an ocd med or a umm treatment plan to help you with the handwriting trouble ?

posted over 5 years ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

Well #1 would definitely be my handwriting. And it's not just how it looks, it's also how it sounds. Even when I type something it can still take me awhile because I want everything to flow and sound good. Even with text messages I'm picky. #2 I'm going to say is reading. This might seem weird but even while reading I'm a perfectionist. I'm actually good at reading it's just that I am picky and want to make sure that I read every single word. Often when I read, I mouth the words or read it out loud quietly and if I mess up on a word or sentence, then I'll just reread the entire thing over again until I get it right. And #3 would be cleaning. Whether it's vacuuming, sweeping, washing windows or doing dishes, I'm picky about all of them. To me everything has to spotless. It has to be perfect.

posted over 5 years ago
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