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Anyone One Else Have An Abusive Parent

Anyone One Else Have An Abusive Parent

My dad hates me and has always treated me differently part of it is due to the medical conditions I have he thinks I’m on hardcore drugs (like heroin, meth, pills, etc.) when I’m not and have been clean for about a year he thinks my seizure spasms are due to me being on “drugs” when I have a seizure it’s because I’m on “drugs” I live at my boyfriends basically because anytime I’m at my house I get in trouble for talking about anything he doesn’t like one day I was trying to kill myself and he… read more

A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

Good to hear that you had the support from other adults. Interesting in the whole collection of potential motivators to nudge you to that profession. However, it is the persona of wanting to help lives better that make a lot of people go into those professions. My older sister is an elementary school teacher/math advisor for 4th graders.

Hopefully, you didn't have any experiences with seizures while working in the plastic molding factory. If I was not in between doctors (no medical insurance) in early 1997 (they paid is higher with no benefits in that new department to produce those handles after buying the machines from another company for Arizona that had no luck with production -- the department closed early in the fall because they did not have any better luck in reducing the number of reject products in that department) when that co-worker told me that I had a complex partial seizure (first time I had ever heard of a partial seizure), then I would have told my primary care doctor about it. And maybe I would have seen a neurologist a little sooner. However, the seizure while taking a practice midterm
and thus had physical evidence to show to get some answers. And when I was sent home with the portable EEG, I made sure to watch the videos of my toasts as a best man (twice) to raise my stress level and increase the odds of having a seizure, and it worked -- though they must have happened while I was asleep because I had no aura prior to them, and back then I was getting auras from at least part of my complex partial seizures.

What are the odds that I have one during a practice midterm -- considering that I had never had a practice exam in any class in K-12 or college before or after that one.

posted 10 days ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

@A MyEpilepsyTeam Member - Thank you so much for your kind words. One thing that saved me was having other adults in my life (friends of our family), who understood and modeled for me what relationships are supposed to be like.

I do think I just naturally gravitated to social work. My grandmother was an OT, my mom directed a community health center, my step-dad was a social worker, my aunt was a teacher, my husband is a social worker. I definitely focused on working with teens at the beginning of my career. It also may have been the reason that I eventually started focusing on domestic violence and sexual assault. The boys I dated probably help with that some too.

BTW - I worked at a plastic molding factory at one point. They made the Reebok Step and something for Bose.

posted 10 days ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

Yes, they continue to work on many treaments, with some treatments persons have found themselves cured. But even if not for some in this journey ahead for most of us it has been and will be long journey. You should never allow your freedoms to be stripped from you. Your not that diffrent from many of us who have taken on this seizure journey everyday, but it's never been a reason to pack up your bags and throw life freedoms given, away. Gods love and blessings be upon you!🙏

edited, originally posted 10 days ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

@A MyEpilepsyTeam Member Sorry to hear about how your parents treated you (especially since you father did not have the excuse of being mentally ill), but I am glad that you did not give up and then had kids and used them as motivation to stick around.

Great idea to treat your parents like clients and thus helping you to deal with it better! Was how you were treated by your parents an inspiration for you to choose to be a social worker (and thus help at least some children to not have to endure what you did)?

Your dad is in better health because he does not have stress as a factor (considering he doesn't seem to care about anyone else, especially his daughter).

I am glad that you were able to deal with this bad start to your life as you did so that you are still around for us to meet you and interact with you, my friend.

posted 10 days ago
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member said:

Like I have told other people, if someone thinks you’re faking a seizure, tell them to give you a good pinch and when you don’t react to it, they’ll know you’re out. I cut my arm on a saw and got stitches one time when I had a seizure, I felt nothing. Even when I woke back up from the seizure on the way to the hospital I wasn’t in any pain.

posted 11 days ago
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