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Is It Okay To Live Alone
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Will i be okay if I live alone will I be okay can I do it

posted December 11, 2021
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Terry I can understand totally. I lost my husband after forty years of marriage. I had my first crush on him when I was as eleven. He joined the service and we moved. We met again ten years later and didn’t remember him! We married that year. Until April 2017. I had been married before for four years and divorced. Six months before I met my true love and we married, so I had never lived alone either. The silence was deafening! I couldn’t settle in to even watch a movie, I’d see something on tv and say something to him and he wasn’t there. We shared everything! No use in cooking, he isn’t there for dinner. I replaced our bed, stored it downstairs, bought a different bed, different mattress’, different sheets. I still can’t sleep in the bedroom. I sleep on the couch. It’s been over four and a half years. I don’t think I’ll ever get used to being alone. I have never driven but I can wear out my tennis shoes pretty quick! When the weathers nice and the walls start closing in and I can’t stand it anymore, I grab my house keys and start walking. I walk three miles to town, I walk all over downtown and to the riverfront to watch the water, the sound of the water relaxes me. I walk home. I can easily put in twenty miles before I head home. All the memories are there when I open the door! Thought about moving, selling the house but every place I looked at was empty. Vast. Empty. Nothing there. Take it one step at a time. All you have to do is get through today. One foot before the other, tomorrow will take care of itself. Today is all that matters. Don’t make plans more than a week away. Your more likely to keep to your plan if it’s not too far in the future. Next week isn’t so bad. Go where there’s people around you. Our town has music in the park on most weekends so I’ll walk downtown listen to the bands and there’s always people around. You may run into friends, that’s even better. Visit your friends if you drive! Family. There’s no time limit on grieving. If you feel like crying, let it out. That’s the main thing. Let your grief out. Something on tv reminds you of your wife and you get teary eyed, that’s okay, let it out. Eventually you’ll learn how to deal with it. The pain never goes away, but you’ll learn to deal with it. You’ll never get over it but you’ll learn to deal with it. Baby steps. One foot in front of the other. You only have to get through today. Before you know it you’ll have gone a whole day without breaking down. It’s the beginning. You may go a week before you have another day without breaking down, maybe two days in a row. It’s a slow but steady process. You’ll make it! She would want you to! Anytime you feel the need to talk, I’m a good listener.

posted December 13, 2021
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

Yes it is but for some people but some people dont like to live alone ever since my wife passed, We lived together 42 yrs and loved having her here as someone to talk to go places together having dinner together sleeping together knowing she is there and can get up close to in bed putting my arm around her as thats all gone as tooked from me. Even tho we have one son two grandkids, as its not the same as lots of time I break down some times wrong things go threw my mind as if wasnt for son and grandkids I be with my wife as thats my feeling

posted December 12, 2021
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

I live alone and have for many years. I’m divorced and have been on my own for 30 years. My family and friends will call me and ask how I’m doing. I work from home 8:30 - 5 PM. I love being on my own and looking into getting a service dog. That might be an option for you. I still rely on family and friends to take me to the grocery store or I shop online. I hope thins helps you. Also my one neighbor knows I’m an epileptic. She is great and we walk every night.

posted December 11, 2021
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

I lived alone in a large city, Omaha NE. No problem for me. I was given the ok to drive and kept working in sales. My seizures occur only while I am asleep. After my 1st brain surgery I moved back to my hometown. Only 3500 people in the town. Spent one year with my parents, I did move out to a low income apartment. The smaller town is a safer place to live alone. Went on SSDI after the surgery and costs so much less in the small town than in a bigger city. 🙂

posted December 27, 2021
A MyEpilepsyTeam Member

I live alone my dad lives in the same street as me now for the past 6 years before that I lived in a maisonette flat with up and down stairs I was on the top floor my mum worried I would fall down them I was stubborn for 10 years before I decided to sell and get a rented ground floor flat without any stairs x x

posted December 12, 2021

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